In Tribute to Mom and Dad
By Raymond Shipley
A moral society is founded upon the principle of honoring one's mother and father. Throughout our history never has a society prospered in the realms of riches and morality where this principle was not practiced, and it should suffice to say this continues to hold true today. In fact, societies that have discouraged this idea have more often than not ceased to exist as a result.
In our modern world parents seem to demand less and less their children show them respect and deference. These parents now see such concepts as authoritarian, and falsely believe this means the child's development will somehow be stifled. This couldn't be further from the truth; however, encouraged by Hollywood and modernism, parents of today's children seek to merely be loved, placing themselves as the child's equal. Moreover, loving a parent can be impossible at times due to the actions and character of the parent, but love and respect are not one and the same. To honor what a parent is and represents is essential to having a moral and prosperous society.
Children are born with an innate need to honor their parents. Without this there exists no initial figure of authority, with only equal peers from which one may or may not look to for guidance. The negative effects that accompany this lack of respect and honor for parents can be seen all around us. Fatherless boys commit more crime, are more prone to mistreat women, and have a higher preponderance of acting out against society. Girls that have no father tend to seek out harmful men, act out against authority, and become more promiscuous at an early age. The desire to be loved by our children is not enough.
From an early age, respecting our parents teaches of a higher, moral authority to which we are all accountable. This hierarchy breeds virtue by its very existence, sowing and harvesting the seeds of a righteous society. We, as parents, must both be the shining example of morality to our children, and demand our children respect and honor us and our example.
But how does one honor parents? Simply speaking to our parents with honor and respect lends itself to the acknowledgment our parents are unique in their role in shaping us. We use titles to refer to our parents and do not call them by given name. Deference and tempered vernacular likewise shows respect not always given to others. And when our children see the reverence we give to our parents, they will in turn learn to do the same. There are myriad ways to honor one's parents, and these are but a few.
Although there are some cases where a parent, through ignoble and dishonorable character and deeds, is not deserving of veneration, these cases tend to be rare. If one's biological parents have forfeited all possibility of being adored and respected, a worthy substitute may be possible. When showing honor to our parents is integral to having a moral society, doing so becomes an act of duty to all.